What is Dating? by Ikaika Mossman
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In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth…and dating.
God then made Adam and Eve. Luckily for them their journey was definitely in place after they were made, for the most part that is. Geez, they didn’t even have to go running around looking for a mate. In fact their “dating” time was about three blinks long, littlest dating time ever recorded in the Bible. For the only course they had to go through was to gaze at each other and “BLAMMO” they were head over heels for each other, and were wedded by the divine one himself. Curious thinking will have you wonder though, what would of happened if Eve refused Adam and told God she wanted someone else? Well, it didn’t happen and I’m sure God had thought that out and made them both equally gorgeous.
Here we have Adam awaking from “surgery” a little dazed from God knocking him out. Looking around for a bit, his eyes begin to get used to the glaring light from the sunrise. His eyes now fully adjusted, he notices this figure lying next to him, a beauty that hypnotizes his entire being (I’m sure some of you are thinking that it was from a hard night of partying, and that he just got lucky…but that’s not the case). Their eyes lock, a smile forms, and only the faintest whispers can now be heard between them. And here is the official dating that commenced…three blinks and love has now sparked between them. The date is over; marriage now begins for the both of them. They were innocent, pure, and remember have not even sinned yet.
Can you imagine how it would have felt to be either of them? (I’m sure some of you ladies would love to find the man of your dreams so fast, but dating hardly seems to work that way) They went through virtually no dating process, having to be accepted or rejected by friends, and certainly no finding out that you’re dating a drunk or abusive person. Also there was surely no luggage of insecurity or hurt from the past to get in the way. They had a very simple beginning. Nearly makes me envious…nearly. They were completely made for one another, each handpicked by God.
Sadly for the rest of us, basically, none of us are so fortunate to go to bed one night and then unexpectedly have the individual of our deepest desires lying beside us when we awaken the next morning.
No, we must sweat, tear, hemorrhage, be anxious and go through bouts of hopelessness for the individual we are engrossed to, let alone date and say “I do” to. Piteous? Perhaps, but either way, it holds water and surely even the best of us have gone through this. Dating, what does it mean and look like…
What is dating?
Merriam-Webster explains dating as “to make or have a date with.” In Urban Dictionary.com: “a form of prostitution in which sex is paid for in installments rather than all at once.” – Billie Carson. Here we have a very dry description and then an excessive meaning.
Each and every one of us has our own thoughts of what dating is and is not. Living most of my life in Hawaii dating a person was constantly something that was special. We would only see one individual at a time. Divergence from this idea was not the norm. My thought on dating was that when an individual was seeing someone focusing on that person brought out maximum benefits (values played it’s part on whether or not sex was involved). I ought to include that this was the standard in the location I lived in, not necessarily what everyone in Hawaii follows.
Then I left for California. Previous to coming here and even after, rumors that Hawaii and California were alike still was commonly thought out loud. My anticipation of the dating customs here were the same as Hawaii’s, though it really was not. Even with the differences, I deducted that much of those who I knew, their friends, and acquaintances either dated multiple guys or multiple girls. Quite frankly this was something that I completely was not familiar with, particularly when it frequently concerned sex. I for my part would not provide myself to an individual except if I knew they were dedicated to the relationship – marriage serious, that’s just how I grew up and feel.
Dating is the prelude before marriage. When you date you are practicing for marriage and the habits that become you while dating will most likely be the habits that follow you into marriage. So if you are a chronic cheater, you will most likely cheat on your wife, and vice-versa. While dating you will discover what you attracted to and what you are not attracted to in another person. This will at times save you unnecessary pain in picking the next person you desire to date. Dating will also allow you to see “soft” spots in yourself, and your good attributes as a friend and partner.
If you are not dating with the intention to perceive who you desire to be with and tie the knot with, then there, in fact, is no reason to you dating. What other purpose does dating truly have, but the hopes of the end result of it – marriage. “Testing the water” is what dating is, and though we are capable of doing whatever we wish and desire, stay out of the water if you are only in with selfish desires of getting a piece of ass. I’m talking about individuals who go around just for the purpose of sex.
Whether you go dating as a group, or go out as just a pair, dating is constantly electrifying and curiously enjoyable (except if you get trapped on a blind date organized by your zealous parents…God bless their souls). Dating should be a safe activity, but as we all know it can go south. If ever it becomes unfriendly or dangerous, coolly remove yourself from the circumstances and have a buddy or relative pick you up (if it ever gets really bad, there is nothing wrong with calling the police). As cliché as it may echo, make your safety take priority. Because if you take pleasure in dating, going out with your cluster of friends, and want to be a wife, or husband, you’ll have to be sure that you will be there to do that. Be smart.
I hope that you gained something from reading “what dating is.” Dating certainly, I feel, is a wonderful opportunity and risk that can become the means to the happily ever after a lot of people desire. “Go dating!”
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Urban Dictionary: BGI Edition